May 29 – May 31, 2020 • PALM SPRINGS, CA


Register for Next Year’s Desire!
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Those summer nights.

Join us in Palm Springs for the hottest weekend of the year.

DESIRE is a one-of-a-kind BDSM event that encourages you to celebrate your sexuality and kink freely, while providing the education and inspiration you need to do so. 

We transform our own private, clothing-optional resort into a kinky paradise, complete with dungeon equipment and unrestricted play. DESIRE is a player’s weekend with very few rules and our location allows for the types of play other spaces don’t, including fire and fluids.

DESIRE is dedicated to enhancing BDSM education, with workshops and personalized mentoring throughout the weekend. It is a place for kinky women and GQ folx of all sexualities, identities, and presentations to socialize and connect with each other.

Thanks to the following companies and organizations for their support of DESIRE.

Shout out to our sponsors.

Start packing your bags.

The DESIRE experience awaits.

Your registration to DESIRE includes:

  • Full weekend access to our own private, clothing-optional resort, including a pool and the kinkiest dungeon equipment around from Friday at noon to Monday at 10 a.m.
  • Three days of hands-on workshops, plus one-on-one or small group mentoring.
  • Lunch Friday, Saturday and Sunday (gluten-free and vegetarian options available).
  • Play-free hospitality suite with air-conditioning, water, and snacks where you can relax when things get too hot.
  • Lounge chairs, floaties, and shade structures to help you enjoy your time in the pool.
  • Kinky prizes from our wonderful sponsors for participating in events and workshops.
  • A wall to post your wildest fantasies and desires, and a community of friendly kinksters to help you get them met.


For what you should bring to DESIRE, check out this post.

Get early-bird pricing for 2019.

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Frequently asked questions.

Where is the event located?

DESIRE takes place in a charming private resort in Palm Springs, California. The resort is centrally located to downtown Palm Springs and surrounded by restaurants and amenities. The resort rooms are limited to staff and presenters, but check out our full FAQ page for lodging options.

Who can attend?

DESIRE is a play party for women only. Please read Gender Policy here:  There will be people with many gender expressions present. You may see a variety of sex, bodies and genitalia at this event.

What's the price?

The cost of registration varies depending on when you register. Scholarships and volunteer opportunities are available for people who need them. Check out the registration page for details.

Is it scary?

Yes, but in that oh-so-delicious way. But don’t worry, you’re not expected to participate in anything that makes you uncomfortable and we strictly enforce rules of consent (consensual non-consent is allowed). There may be some things you see that disturb you. If that is the case, we ask you to practice radical self-care and remove yourself from the area.

Meet your hosts.

Bikkja Amy and Naria

Bikkja Amy is the Co-owner/Producer of DESIRE and the Contestant Coordinator for IMsL/IMsBB (2007- current).  She has been creating mischief in the San Diego and Central Valley Leather Communities for the last 17 years. True to her Capricorn nature, she jumped right into her career as a Kinky Woman when she first moved to San Diego in 2000, by becoming a member and board member of Leather and Sisterhood (L.A.S.H.) She then became Knight of Leather 2002. She facilitated the San Diego Women’s Leather Rap group and co-founded the Modesto Women’s BDSM Forum in 2004-06.She became Southern California Leather Woman (SCLW) in 2006 and sat on the board until the title retired in 2015. Bikkja was on The Leather Realm committee at San Diego Gay Pride from 2007 to 2017. She has the honor of being Mama’s Bikkja. As a player, she is a true Switch who is particularly fond of blood. She spends her time in San Diego with her wife, Naria, her submissive and partner “toi”, 2 cats and 2 dogs, and a household of assorted pervs.
 Naria Lei B. Jordan is the Co-owner/Producer of DESIRE, IMsL Dungeon Coordinator, Southern California Leather Woman (SCLW) 2013, and Ms. San Diego Leather 2002.  She is a longtime Radical Sex Perv Poly Daddy who has been involved in the Queer BDSM Community for 35 years as a practitioner, organizer, activist, and educator in the Kinky Arts. She co-founded two Women’s-only leather groups in Washington, DC–Lesborados and S/Mazons. She was a co-founder, editor, and writer for the collectively published “Black Leather…In Color” and was the facilitator of the Women’s BDSM Rap in San Diego from 2007-2014. She was also the Co-facilitator for the Women’s BDSM Forum in the Modesto/Central Valley area from 2004-2006. A writer, national speaker and presenter, photographer, and fancier of Fine Fierce Femme Women, Naria is a relentless sex educator, a misunderstood yet flaming Pisces, a true Water Tiger, and always enjoys pushing the envelope–as often as possible! She spends her time in San Diego and Orange County with her primary partners, Bikkja Amy and Brigette, as well as 2 cats and 2 dogs, and a household of assorted pervs.


Early-bird registration is open.

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