Frequently Asked Questions
DESIRE is a unique weekend event for leather and kinky women taking place June 8-11, 2018.
DESIRE is an educational weekend committed to providing outstanding learning opportunities and experiences for all. DESIRE is an ideal retreat for novices where you can learn a wide variety of skills in a single weekend in a safe environment. It’s a great opportunity for experienced players to improve their skills and learn more advanced ways of playing. DESIRE gathers a wonderful group of presenters who are eager to share their expertise with you. Presenters actively participate in all DESIRE activities and are an integral part of the weekend. There will be many workshops and presentations offered during the weekend. One of the unique features of DESIRE is that participants have the opportunity to have a one-on-one mentoring session or participate in a small group with one of the presenters.
Join us in Palm Springs June 8-11, 2018! We look forward to meeting you and sharing the experience with you.
Your hosts,
Bikkja Amy and Naria
General Questions
How do I register for DESIRE?
Must read rules and regulations.
Registration Guidelines (you must agree to these to register):
- The name presented on the application must be the legal name of the applicant and not an alias.
- Legal and valid identification must be presented in order to gain entrance to the event. Legal ID is
considered to be a state issue driver’s license or identification card, passport, military ID, or other
government issued identification. - A waiver must be signed with the legal name of the attendee in order to gain admission to the
event. - DESIRE is a play party for women only. In that, we require all individuals that attend, including cisgender, transgender, transexual, intersexed, and gender-fluid individuals to SHOW UP and participate as a woman and/or in woman space. There will be people with many gender expressions present. You may see a variety of sex, bodies and genitalia at this event.
- All attendees are participating in the event solely for their own personal enjoyment and not in any
official capacity that includes, but is not limited investigations or gathering of information. - Attendees understand that activities at the event will be adult-oriented and sexually explicit and
may involve acts of domination, submission, bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism, and
other explicit and extreme sexual fetishes. All attendees agree that they will not be offended by
observation and/or participation in such activities. - Applications to attend DESIRE are subject to approval by the DESIRE producers.
- Although all presenters listed have confirmed their attendance unforeseen circumstances may
result in unexpected replacements. All efforts will be taken to accommodate attendee’s choices
but no refunds will be given should that not be possible.
How many people attend DESIRE?
To create a feeling of community and intimacy, DESIRE is kept at around 200 participants, presenters, and staff.
Who can attend DESIRE?
DESIRE is a play party for women only. In that, we require all individuals that attend, including cisgender, transgender, transexual, intersexed, and gender-fluid individuals to SHOW UP and participate as a woman and/or in woman space. There will be people with many gender expressions present. You may see a variety of sex, bodies and genitalia at this event.
We do not police genitalia.
What kind of play happens at this event? Will there be sex?
DESIRE is a player’s event, meaning a variety of play is happening at all times, including EXTREME play that might be triggering or disturbing to some. Some people chose to include sex in their play, some people don’t. You will see a variety of sex, bodies and genitalia at this event.
ALL PLAY MUST BE FULLY CONSENSUAL!
It is your responsibility to practice radical self-care and take care of yourself during the event. We have a hospitality suite open during the day until midnight where no play or sex is allowed if you need a break from the stimulation or the heat.
What should I bring?
We supply large equipment and cleaning supplies. Nibbles, water, and electrolyte drinks are also provided throughout the day until midnight in the hospitality suite.
Please bring with you any items and supplies you’ll need to help you enjoy the event, including:
- toys and play equipment,
- pee pads (if needed for any fluid play),
- condoms, lubricant, dental dams, etc.,
- sunscreen!
- food (if you’re not buying the on-site meals) and at the very least snacks,
- large refillable water bottle to stay hydrated.
For a full list of items people bring, read this post.
We are dedicated to being as accessible as possible. If you have accessibility needs, please see this post.
This is my first year. What do I need to know?
Welcome to DESIRE! We have a newbie meeting the first night that you definitely should attend, so check the schedule for that. In that meeting, we’ll go over workshops, mentoring, equipment, and entertainment for the weekend along with giving you tips to get the most out of your weekend.
We also have ambassadors around all weekend long to help you. Check for people wearing bright vests at meal times and in the hospitality suite.
If you haven’t yet, be sure to read our blog posts Ask a DESIRE Veteran – Your Questions Answered! and What to Bring. You can also ask questions in our FetLife or Facebook groups. And be sure to follow us on Facebook and Twitter for updates.
What should I bring?
What do you bring to an event as unique as DESIRE? We’ve got a whole list of suggestions for you here.
Ask a DESIRE veteran – your questions answered.
We rounded up veteran’s advice on how to get the most from your DESIRE weekend. You can find their answers here.
Where can I find the complete schedule?
We’ve got a full weekend ready for you! The complete schedule and the workshop schedule can be found here.
Location, Lodging and Local Resources
Where is the event located?
DESIRE takes place in a charming private resort in Palm Springs, California. The resort is centrally located to downtown Palm Springs and surrounded by restaurants and amenities.
For the privacy of all in attendance, we do not release the name and address of the resort until we have verified your registration. If you’re looking for an AirBnB or hotel to stay, the main cross streets are Ramon and Sunrise Way.
We are dedicated to being as accessible as possible. If you have accessibility needs, please see this post.
What hotels and AirBnBs are nearby?
If you’re looking for an AirBnB or hotel to stay, the main cross streets are Ramon and Sunrise Way.
Here are some hotel options with proximity to DESIRE and reasonable prices:
Motel 6 (#689) .73 miles from DESIRE
660 S. Palm Canyon Drive, Palm Springs, 92262
www.motel6.com, 760-327-4200
Can’t beat the price and it is less than a mile from DESIRE. It looks like a newer facility. Make sure that you reserve this Motel 6. There are other Motel 6’s a little further away and older.
Best Western Las Brisas Hotel .91 miles from DESIRE
222 S. Indian Canyon Drive, Palm Springs, 92262
www.bestwestern.com, 800-346-5714, 760-352-4372
Comfort Inn 1.43 miles from DESIRE
390 S. Indian Canyon Drive, Palm Springs, 92262
www.palmspringscomfortinn.com, 888-322-1997, 760-778-3699
Courtyard by Marriott 1.34 miles from DESIRE
1300 Taquitz Canyon Way, Palm Springs, 92262
www.marriott.com/PSPCH, 800-321-2211, 760-322-6100
Desert Lodge 1.06 miles from DESIRE
1177 S. Palm Canyon Drive, Palm Springs, 92264
800-385-6343, 760-325-1356
Hotel Z Oso 1.0 miles from DESIRE
150 S. Indian Canyon Drive, Palm Springs, 92262
www.hotelzoso.com, 760-325-9676
Travelodge 1.49 miles from DESIRE
- E. Palm Canyon Drive, Palm Springs, 92264
www.travelodge.com, 800-578-7878, 760-327-1211
Vagabond 1.45 miles from DESIRE
1699 S. Palm Canyon Drive, Palm Springs, 92264
www.vagabondinn.com, 760-325-7211
What's the event space like?
Walk through the front lobby and you have entered our world. We transform this tropical resort into our secret weekend oasis. There is dungeon equipment and massage tables all over the resort for your use at anytime. There is a large courtyard area for socializing and several smaller more intimate areas. We’ve added lots of shade, including over the spa and part of the pool, for everyone’s comfort. We have an air-conditioned hospitality suite available for cool relaxation breaks. If you want to relax in a beautiful setting surrounded by naked kinky women, this is the place to be.
We are dedicated to being as accessible as possible. If you have accessibility needs, please see this post.
Which airport should I use to get there?
What's Palm Springs like? Should I come early or stay late?
Palm Springs has something for everyone. Besides basking in the sun, taking a dip in the pool and relaxing under the shade of a palm tree, there is lots to do for those who want action outside of DESIRE. Palm Springs is known for its world-famous golf courses and beautiful canyons for hiking. There are museums, art galleries, spas, casinos and lots of shopping opportunities.
Presenters, Staff and Volunteers
Who runs DESIRE?
DESIRE was started over a decade ago by Olga and blu (who still attend!) and was taken over in 2017 by Bikkja Amy and Naria.
Bikkja Amy is the new Co-owner/Producer of DESIRE and the Contestant Coordinator for IMsL/IMsBB (2007- current). She has been creating mischief in the San Diego and Central Valley Leather Communities for the last 17 years. True to her Capricorn nature, she jumped right into her career as a Kinky Woman when she first moved to San Diego in 2000, by becoming a member and board member of Leather and Sisterhood (L.A.S.H.) She then became Knight of Leather 2002. She facilitated the San Diego Women’s Leather Rap group and co-founded the Modesto Women’s BDSM Forum in 2004-06.She became Southern California Leather Woman (SCLW) in 2006 and sat on the board until the title retired in 2015. Bikkja was on The Leather Realm committee at San Diego Gay Pride from 2007 to 2017. She has the honor of being Mama’s Bikkja. As a player, she is a true Switch who is particularly fond of blood. She spends her time in San Diego with her wife, Naria, her submissive and partner “toi”, 2 cats and 2 dogs, and a household of assorted pervs.
Naria Lei B. Jordan is the new Co-owner/Producer of DESIRE, IMsL Dungeon Coordinator, Southern California Leather Woman (SCLW) 2013, and Ms. San Diego Leather 2002. She is a longtime Radical Sex Perv Poly Daddy who has been involved in the Queer BDSM Community for 35 years as a practitioner, organizer, activist, and educator in the Kinky Arts. She co-founded two Women’s-only leather groups in Washington, DC–Lesborados and S/Mazons. She was a co-founder, editor, and writer for the collectively published “Black Leather…In Color” and was the facilitator of the Women’s BDSM Rap in San Diego from 2007-2014. She was also the Co-facilitator for the Women’s BDSM Forum in the Modesto/Central Valley area from 2004-2006. A writer, national speaker and presenter, photographer, and fancier of Fine Fierce Femme Women, Naria is a relentless sex educator, a misunderstood yet flaming Pisces, a true Water Tiger, and always enjoys pushing the envelope–as often as possible! She spends her time in San Diego and Orange County with her primary partners, Bikkja Amy and Brigette, as well as 2 cats and 2 dogs, and a household of assorted pervs.
Who is on staff?
Get to know your DESIRE staff here. You will also be introduced to the full DESIRE staff at Opening Ceremonies Friday night.
How do I get on staff?
We are not taking any submissions for staff at this time.
Who is presenting workshops and offering mentoring at DESIRE?
Some of the most knowledgable BDSM, leather, and kink instructors come from all over the world to teach at DESIRE. Our presenters offer workshops throughout the weekend, along with one-on-one and small group mentoring, an especially unique and beneficial experience DESIRE offers.
A list of 2018’s presenters can be found here.
How can I become a presenter at DESIRE?
We are not taking any submissions for presenters at this time.
How do I volunteer?
All the information you need to volunteer at DESIRE can be found here.
Do you offer scholarships?
We do offer scholarships! All the information you need on scholarships can be found here.
Where do I need to be when?
If you’re on staff or a presenter, we’ll give you a schedule personally. If you’re an attendee, you can find both the complete weekend schedule and the workshop schedule here.
Educational Workshops and Mentoring
Who is presenting workshops and offering mentoring at DESIRE?
Some of the most knowledgable BDSM, leather, and kink instructors come from all over the world to teach at DESIRE. Our presenters offer workshops throughout the weekend, along with one-on-one and small group mentoring, an especially unique and beneficial experience DESIRE offers.
A list of 2018’s presenters can be found here.
How can I become a presenter at DESIRE?
We are not taking any submissions for presenters at this time.
What workshops are being offered?
We’ve got some amazing workshops for you to attend this year, including both hard and soft skills.
You can find the complete workshop schedule here.
Where can I find the complete weekend schedule?
There’s always something happening at DESIRE. Check out the complete schedule of events here.
Sponsorship and Ads in the Program
How do I advertise in the DESIRE program?
Here’s your unique opportunity to advertise your products, services or business at the hottest women’s BDSM conference on the planet by placing an ad in the DESIRE Program Book!
As a DESIRE advertiser, you not only support to the women’s leather community, but you also reach over 250+ women eager to know what your product, service, or business can do for them!
DESIRE has become the premiere annual women’s leather event in the country, attracting participants and presenters from throughout the United States and Canada. DESIRE is the only conference event in the country exclusively for women into BDSM.
DESIRE’s main goal is to provide a safe space where women can learn, socialize and play. Education is one of DESIRE’s main focuses, so this year DESIRE is offering 24 different workshops. Also, one of the unique and popular features of DESIRE is that participants can sign up for a one-hour mentoring session with the presenter of their choice. You can learn more about DESIRE by looking around this website.
ADVERTISING OPTIONS:
- Place a banner on the DESIRE website for a FULL YEAR.
- Full Page Ads (8″ high x 5″ wide).
- Half Page Ads (4″ high x 5″ wide).
- Business Card Ads (2″ high x 5″ wide).
- Swag Bag Inserts (business card, flyer, postcard, etc.).
- Additional sponsorship opportunities available. Inquire for details!
HOW TO ORDER:
Send your ad order to desireleatherwomen@gmail.com to reserve your space. Please specify which type of ad you are placing, and attach graphics, if applicable.
The deadline for submitting your ad materials and sending payment for DESIRE 2018 is Friday, May 15, 2018.
How do I get an ad on the DESIRE website?
Ads on the DESIRE website are reserved for sponsors of DESIRE. To sponsor DESIRE, see above.